In contemporary times, the question “What is truth?” elicits diverse responses. Not too long ago, truth was universally regarded as objective—a reality that persists irrespective of personal preferences or beliefs. This perspective has evolved over recent generations, leading to the present landscape where the notion of truth has gradually transformed.
Over time, truth became a fluid and evolving concept. It morphs based on circumstances, creating “situation ethics.” Today, truth is entirely subjective. In a random poll of young people, you might hear: “Find your truth and live it.” It is reasonable to assert that Jesus might not have garnered widespread popularity in our modern culture. He was unhesitant in championing objective and unequivocal truth. He says in John 14:6 (ESV): “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.”
The First Couple
If we reflect honestly, we will admit we sometimes feel tempted to withhold the whole truth. This is a facet of human nature evident in the narrative of the first couple in Genesis 3:1-13.
In this account, Satan, assuming the form of a snake, tempts Eve with a deceptive promise, sowing doubt in her mind—a tactic still employed in marital dynamics today. Choosing to believe the lie, Eve partakes of the forbidden fruit and subsequently shares it with Adam, her husband. Rather than adhering to God’s commands and exercising his inherent authority, Adam also rebels and eats the fruit.
The narrative underscores the universal principle that sin is never an isolated act; its repercussions extend to others. In this instance, Adam and Eve’s deviation from obedience not only altered their own destiny but also left a lasting impact on all subsequent generations affected by the Fall.
The account illuminates a profound truth: *sin is never an isolated occurrence.* Its impact invariably extends to others. In this instance, the consequences of Adam and Eve’s transgression reverberated through time, shaping the destiny of all their future generations.
Following their sin, Adam and Eve demonstrated a typical human pattern observed when faced with the adverse consequences of actions, manifesting in the following steps:
- COVER: Acknowledging their nakedness, Adam and Eve sought to conceal themselves. (Genesis 3:7)
- HIDE: The awareness of their sin prompted them to hide from God, illustrating that sin inherently causes separation. (Genesis 3:8-10)
- BLAME: When confronted with accountability, they opted to shift responsibility. Adam not only blamed Eve but also attributed fault to God for giving her to him. In turn, Eve placed blame on the serpent. (Genesis 3:12-13)
The importance of truth in our lives is underscored by its importance to God. As His children, embracing the role of “truth-tellers” is particularly crucial in our marriages. The enduring efficacy of the enemy’s tactics, consistent since the time of the first couple, lies in their effectiveness. The adversary persistently endeavors to infiltrate our marriages through lies, deceit, empty promises devoid of consequences, and manipulating “half-truths.” Becoming truth-tellers is a powerful deterrent, stopping the enemy’s advances.
Recently, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott delved into the significance of truth-telling in their book, Love Like That, dedicating two articles to explore four key strategies for intentional improvement.
4 Ways to Be a Better Truth-Teller:
STOP FEARING VULNERABILITY: Embrace vulnerability, as it allows authentic connection with your spouse and others. Recognize the influence of your family of origin on emotional expression, seeking healing to reveal your true self and enhance the ability to give and receive love fully.
BE WILLING TO RISK REJECTION: Overcome the fear of rejection, understanding that it is a universal aspect of the human condition. Shed the masks that hide your true self, letting go of the compulsion to avoid truth-telling due to the fear of rejection.
CARE LESS ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK: Resist the societal pressure to conform to others’ opinions. Define your values as a couple, and stand firm. Avoid prioritizing popularity over truth, recognizing the potential impact on your marriage when truth-telling is compromised.
SPEAK TRUTH IN LOVE: Acknowledge that speaking the truth, even when painful, is necessary for accountability, growth, and change. Despite the potential for conflict, approaching truth-telling with love, prayer, and consideration for the other person’s best interest ensures the right course of action.
Being a truth-teller involves risks, including the possibility of conflict, but the pursuit of truth in love is essential for personal and relational growth.
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Nevertheless, there are instances where facing conflict becomes inevitable. By covering the situation in prayer and prioritizing the other person’s best interests, you can be assured that you have taken the right course of action, irrespective of the challenges or conflicts that may arise.
In our marriages, we desperately need to tell the truth to our spouse. If it’s challenging to express yourself to your spouse or to receive truth from them, it’s best to seek guidance from a mentor couple or counselor to cultivate healthy communication.
Truth is synonymous with trust, forming the bedrock of our marriages. Taking it a step further, truth begets trust, and trust produces intimacy. The more trust we can place in our spouse, the deeper our intimacy becomes. Conversely, when truth is withheld, trust is eroded, and intimacy suffers.
Let’s commit to being truth-tellers, addressing any hindrances that impede our openness. By making a collective commitment to speak the truth in love, we intentionally fortify our marriages, fostering strength and resilience.
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